BEAUTY.
I walked on the Southwest flight – scanned the empty seats for normal, showered humans and took a seat next to one guy and one girl.
I just giggled and knew there was a reason I was in that chair. There are no “accidents” and I was going to have to embarrass myself and get her thoughts on BEAUTY.
Almost ¾ into flight I finally leaned over to this beauty and explained the deal (hoping she wouldn’t page an air marshal) and said, “Could you give me some advice as a mom and someone who gets to reach out to lots of moms?”
GIRLS CRAVE APPROVAL & ATTENTION BY DADS
We know this and we just have to remember that this is a desire deep in our girls’ hearts. They want attention and approval from men, early. Hopefully, they have a father figure in their life EARLY that can affirm them and remind them of their beauty – internally and externally. If not, hopefully there is a way to get a figure like that into their lives that understands his role to keep that going. She will be hunting for that to fill that void. Not just little girls – girls of all ages still need their dads to affirm their beauty and give attention. Many things come to mind – date nights, daddy/daughter dances, notes, etc.
WHAT IS PRETTY TRANSITIONS INTO WHAT IS SEXY
She talked about how young girls are challenged with their beauty identity from a very young age. Then, as they start growing – they begin defining their ideals and worth on sexuality. She has some profound thoughts on this area I’ll share with you soon.
CELEBRATE THE DIFFERENCES
This touched me because I told her of Ella’s glasses (that are precious), but I know time is coming when she will hate them and hate her thick hair. She was so passionate about us moms encouraging them in those differences. Constantly reminding them how cute or great they are – or how much you love that curly hair or “thing” that makes them unique. Again, not just when they are little but all ages. They need us so badly (moms and dads) in their corner, reminding them they are worth something and amazing just as they are.
So, I thanked her. The guy next to her (friend of hers from high school) was in disbelief at the bizarre turn of events said, “How did you know to ask her about this?” And I said, “I heard a few words and I just kind of knew.” He said, “Well, she’s a celebrity and you asked the perfect person.” In true humble fashion of a true beauty, she blushed and said “nah.” We exchanged information.
Before I got to the car, I had an email wishing me luck with my endeavors.
It was signed…
Ericka Dunlap
Miss America
2004
