How’s this for a title? One principal for a better life? Really?
Yea! Really.
And, it is a very simple principle – one every leader knows, but one we often forget. But, understanding this principle can dramatically improve every relationship in your life – and, if you’re a leader, it will improve your leadership – every time. Guaranteed!
Wow! Another emphatic statement! But, it’s true.
Learn this principle and place it into practice and see what I mean. Our staff hears this consistently because it’s so true.
Here’s the principle:
Are you ready?
Write this down:
People only know what they know.
I know what you’re thinking. That’s big.
It’s not just big – it’s HUGE!
Of course, it takes practice to learn and let a principle this important work in your life, but the reward is worth it.
Let me give some examples:
If an employee isn’t meeting your expectations – tell them. Do it with love. Do it gracefully. Share it in a way which attempts to build them up rather than tear them down, but they may think you’re completely pleased if you’ve not said anything.
People only know what they know.
If your spouse is continually hurting your feelings – be kind, be loving, be graceful, forgiving, and helpful, but let it be known. Communicate your feelings. Chances are they are not doing whatever “it” is on purpose, but out of ignorance. They don’t know.
People only know what they know.
If a child says the wrong thing at the wrong time – Be affirming. Make sure they know you love them first. Assure them you’re in their corner and “for them” either way, but teach them from the experience you have had in life. Likely, someone had to teach you.
People only know what they know.
If a boss seems completely out of touch with reality – guess what? He or she may be. They probably need others to speak into their life. Be respectful. Be kind. Be genuine. Don’t share with others until you’ve shared with them, but share what’s on your heart with love.
People only know what they know.
If a new believer doesn’t quite measure up to the standard you’ve set for a believer. Don’t bash them or judge them or make them feel guiltier than they possibly do. Love them. Disciple them. Help them understand the way Christ would act. It may be they don’t hold or even know the standard Christ set.
People only know what they know.
Insert your own scenario, but before you get upset with someone – before you lose your patience – before you hold it against them – before you give up on a relationship – remember:
People only know what they know.
When people don’t know – and we assume they do – it leads to frustration, anger and disappointment. Communication is key to healthy relationships.
