Question
I have been dating a Mormon for a few years now and I’m a Christian. It’s come to that point where we need to make some decisions about what to do about marriage. Should I marry her even though we don’t share the same faith?
Answer
Dear Friend – I can answer this question immediately, absolutely not!
I’m sure that she is the most amazing woman in the world. I’m sure she is beautiful and probably nicer than both you and I. I’m sure that she is more dedicated to her faith than you and I are. But that doesn’t mean you can marry her.
She currently lives for and has been trained into a relationship with a different god.
It will absolutely destroy both you and her if you move forward.
Once you have kids it will all hit the fan.
The only way that you can make this work is for both of you to water down your faith and not talk about spiritual things. That’s not acceptable in either religion.
You can’t ‘ministry date’ or ‘missionary date’ (hoping she’ll get saved). That’s far too dangerous.
I’m assuming that after 3 years you love her desperately and in over your head. I don’t know how you can back out without severe heartache. My heart breaks for you for how tough this will be.
The Bible is clear that you are not to marry this woman (1 Cor 7:39), it would be unfair to her and to you and would be a violation of God’s Word.
God wants to rescue her as well. God wants her to live for Him. God loves her more than you do, but you are muddying the waters for her. Although you are introducing her to the real LORD, you are now going to jerk her around by breaking up with her and driving her back into her family and culture. This isn’t how we are supposed to do it. I’m sure you had a great heart and only the best motivations, but it’s not good, my friend.
I’m sorry to be harsh, but you and she need to be protected.
