“You NEVER listen to me!”
Have you ever heard those words in your home? It’s the motto of relationship trouble asking for a solution.
Poor communication is a leading contributor to difficulties between couples. When communication, listening, understanding and acceptance are gone, it leaves a void filled with anger, distance and emptiness.
Better communication can strengthen relationships. Couples who know how to discuss money, intimacy, children, work and health issues, have a better chance at success than those who struggle.
Good communication does not require a doctorate in counseling! But it does necessitate a degree in patience, discernment and empathy. You have to understand this simple rule: “Make sure that what you say is actually what is heard.”
Being effective requires more effort than people are willing to give. It takes work to be a strong communicator. Making eye contact, listening closely, reflecting on what was said, and blocking out other thoughts requires your highest concentration.
You have the power to:
- Express what’s in your heart without losing control.
- Speak without being controlled by your spouse’s response or lack of response.
- Clarify what your spouse says in response, without getting side tracked.
- Forgive inconsiderate words.
You will find words are a powerful instrument that will either build up or tear down a relationship. Create beautiful portraits of love, affection and understanding for your spouse.
